Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, I see you looking in the mirror, wondering who that stranger is staring back. Like you're watching someone else live your life while the real you is... somewhere else. Maybe lost. Maybe gone forever. Everything that used to feel natural—making dinner, showing up to work, having conversations with friends—now feels like you're acting in a play you never auditioned for. You catch yourself wondering, "Who am I without my child?" as if their death somehow...
14 days ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, Those songs that suddenly stop you in your tracks, the dates on the calendar that loom with dread, the places you can barely drive by, the scents or sounds that instantly transport you back to unbearable pain. And now, in these times when the world itself seems to be grieving—when news of children separated from mothers, families torn apart, and innocent lives lost floods your awareness—these collective tragedies can trigger your personal grief in ways...
21 days ago • 7 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, The question “why” keeps circling in your mind day and night. “Why did this happen? Why my child? You are constantly seeking for meaning behind what seems like senseless loss. The "why" follows you everywhere, demanding answers that no one seems able to provide. You worry this persistent questioning is unhealthy—evidence that you're "stuck" in your grief, unable to "accept reality" or "move forward" as others suggest you should. You wonder if there's...
27 days ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, I hear you say you cannot stop thinking about your child and they are on your mind 24/7. The memories play on repeat and the questions circle endlessly. You worry that your mind is broken—stuck in a loop that prevents you from healing or "moving forward" as others expect. You wonder if this endless thinking means you're not grieving "properly" or that you'll never find peace again. Spiritual Root Cause: This constant thinking isn't a broken thought...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, If you have ever had these thoughts that come in the darkest hours: "I don't want to do this anymore. I can't keep living this way. I wish I could just go to sleep and never wake up to this reality again." I see you. I see how you worry about these thoughts, perhaps feeling guilty for having them when you have other people who need you, yet the bone-deep weariness feels insurmountable. Spiritual Root Cause: This profound despair isn't just emotional...
about 1 month ago • 4 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, I see the profound weariness that comes from maintaining the mask of competence and control. The way you've carefully constructed your public face each morning, ensuring your makeup covers the dark circles from sleepless nights, practicing the polite smile that keeps everyone comfortable. The internal rage you feel when someone praises you for "handling it so well" or tells you how much they admire your strength, when inside you're absolutely shattered....
about 2 months ago • 4 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, I know you feel a deep sense of disconnection, even when surrounded by caring people. It feels like there is an invisible barrier separating you from others who haven't experienced child loss. Conversations feel superficial or exhausting, social gatherings have become overwhelming, and well-meaning advice often causes more pain than comfort. You've withdrawn not from lack of caring but from the sheer effort required to bridge this existential gap...
about 2 months ago • 5 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, Now that Mother's Day has passed, perhaps you are feeling emotionally depleted, relieved it's over, or surprised by unexpected waves of grief that continue to wash over you. Maybe the day brought painful moments of invisibility if your only child has died, or perhaps you're exhausted from the emotional complexity of celebrating with living children while missing another. Some of you might have received beautiful acknowledgment of your continuing...
2 months ago • 3 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, The ache you feel when thinking about all the moments you’ll never witness with your child is profoundly valid. The birthdays you will never celebrate, the graduations and weddings you will neve attend- this pain cuts so deep precisely because it represents real loss. You invested your heart, your dreams, and countless sacrifices in nurturing your child’s potential. Every decision you made, from the moment you knew of their existence, was woven with...
2 months ago • 2 min read