Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, You sit surrounded by the boxes of your child's belongings. Their clothes still smell like their cologne, their paintings lean against the wall half-finished, sketchbooks filled with ideas they'll never develop. That novel they were writing sits on your kitchen table, 200 pages of dreams and talent that will never reach its ending. You hold their favorite sweater and wonder: Do I donate this so someone else can feel its warmth, or keep it because...
3 days ago • 9 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, Today might be really hard for you. You think you've never felt this depressed in your life. You're scared of having a long life because you don't think you can handle living years missing your child this much. You're not planning on ending your life, but at the same time you don't want to keep living this way. It hurts too much. And you don't want to live with this much pain for the next 20+ years. The thought of decades ahead filled with this crushing...
10 days ago • 7 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, I hear you talk about the bone-deep weariness you feel from constantly holding everyone else together while your own world has completely shattered. Family, friends, and colleagues still look to you for support as if your child's death somehow made you stronger rather than breaking you completely. I see you carrying the burden of maintaining the appearance that you "have it all together" when you can barely function, when what you desperately need is...
16 days ago • 9 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, I hear you talk about those moments when you mention your child's name and watch the conversation suddenly shift. The awkward glances exchanged, and the palpable discomfort that fills the room. The way people quickly change topics, offer hurried condolences, or worse—remain silent as if you've said something inappropriate. The subtle but unmistakable message that your child should be relegated to the past, their name spoken only in hushed memorial...
24 days ago • 5 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, I hear you talk about the painful realization that invitations to social events are dwindling because friends don't know how to handle your grief or worry you'll "bring down the mood." I hear you talk about the way conversations become awkward when you mention your child, and how people change the subject or offer empty platitudes before quickly moving on to lighter topics. The loneliness is suffocating and you feel like a stranger in your own social...
about 1 month ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Mama, I understand the relentless voice that whispers you failed in your most fundamental role as a mother. The endless replaying of "what ifs" and "if onlys" that haunt your sleepless nights. The conviction that if you had somehow been more vigilant, made different choices, or noticed different signs, your child would still be alive. The way this guilt sits like a stone in your chest, making breathing feel like betrayal—how dare you continue when your child...
about 1 month ago • 7 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Mama, I understand you feel panic when you realize you can't quite remember the exact sound of your child’s laugh anymore. I understand the desperate way you sometimes replay their voice, terrified it's already fading. You frantically search through photos and videos, trying to preserve every detail before it slips away forever... You clutch their belongings, inhale their scent from clothing, and feel devastated when you realize you've forgotten what they wore...
about 1 month ago • 5 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Mama, I hear you talk about the feeling of having a hole in your chest. A void that physically aches, making you feel incomplete no matter where you go or what you do. People tell you it's "just psychosomatic" or "your mind's way of processing grief," but you know it's something deeper, something more real than they understand. Spiritual Root Cause: This sensation of a hole in your heart is not imaginary or merely psychological—it reflects an actual sacred...
about 2 months ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Mama, I know that you sometimes feel overwhelming fatigue that permeates every cell of your being, making even simple tasks feel monumental. I understand the heaviness that weighs on you from the moment you wake, regardless of how many hours you've slept. The way your body seems to move through molasses, your mind struggling to focus through the fog. You've tried everything - more sleep, vitamins, exercise, therapy, perhaps even medication. Yet nothing touches...
about 2 months ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama, Dear Mama, Your tears still come almost daily, sometimes without warning, sometimes in private moments when you finally have a chance to breathe. The seem to have a life of their own, flowing when you least expect it, even years later. You've been told that crying is healthy, that you need to "cry it out" to heal. Yet you've cried oceans and still the tears come, and you wonder if something is wrong with you because they haven't stopped, because you don't feel...
2 months ago • 5 min read