Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, You might have been receiving this newsletter from me for a while now or you might have just found me recently because you were longing to feel close to your child again. No matter how or when you got here, I am glad you are here. On Sunday, November 1, Día de los Angelitos, the Day of the Little Angels, I'm holding something I've never offered before: a free live healing workshop for bereaved mamas called The Weight of a Mother's Love. I came to this...
about 1 hour ago • 8 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, Is your grief the only thing that reminds you your child was real? So many mothers tell me they're afraid to let the sadness soften, because they feel that the ache in their chest is the last thread still tying them to their child and without the pain, their child might slip away. If that's true for you, I understand. And I want to offer you something different today. A while ago, I worked with Kathleen, a mother whose adult son, Fergus, had died. She...
7 days ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, How are you supposed to live another 20 or 30 years without your child? Maybe this a question you rarely say out loud but you think about it all the time. You can barely comprehend how you've survived this long. And now you're supposed to imagine a whole lifetime stretching out ahead of you? Another birthday. Another Thanksgiving. Another Christmas morning. Another year of watching other people's children graduate, marry and grow older, while your child...
14 days ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, You did everything you could to save your child. You fought for them. You searched for answers. You prayed. You made decisions no mother should ever have to make. Perhaps you spent countless nights researching treatments, calling doctors, looking for another specialist, another possibility, another way to keep your child here. Or perhaps it all happened so suddenly that you never had the chance. And your child still died. How is a mother supposed to...
22 days ago • 3 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, On a day dedicated to grief awareness, I want to sit with you for a moment and talk about maternal grief. I'm going to be honest. I never planned to work with grieving mothers one-on-one. That wasn't where I thought my work would go. I was a spiritual healer and dream guide wanting to help anyone who was grieving reunite with their dead loved one and heal the spiritual dimension of grief. But then something happened in 2024 that changed everything. When...
about 2 months ago • 10 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, You feel it even when surrounded by people who care. That invisible barrier between you and everyone else who hasn't lost a child. You can be sitting in a room full of family, listening to conversations, watching people laugh, and still feel completely alone. It isn't that you don't care about them. It isn't that they've done anything wrong. It's simply that something has changed inside of you, and no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to find your...
5 months ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, You've been told so many things about how grief should work. What's normal and what's not. What's healthy and what means you're stuck. And most of it has probably made you feel like you're doing something wrong. Because you can't stop thinking about your child. Because the hole in your heart hasn't closed. Because certain songs or colors or moments still knock the breath out of you. Today I want to tell you three truths that nobody else is saying. Three...
5 months ago • 5 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, You spent decades building yourself into someone capable. Someone who had it together. Someone other people leaned on. And now here you are—crying in the grocery store. Forgetting appointments. Unable to focus on tasks you used to handle in your sleep. Feeling completely undone. If you're in your 40s, 50s, 60s—if you've spent years becoming competent, independent, in control—and your child's death has stripped all of that away, leaving you feeling weak...
5 months ago • 4 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, Happy Mother's Day. I mean that with my whole heart. Even knowing what today costs you. Even knowing that those three words land differently for you than they do for most people. Even knowing that you woke up this morning and felt the complexity of this day settle into your body before you were fully awake. Happy Mother's Day to you, exactly as you are. With everything you are carrying. With everything you love. I want to sit with you this morning....
6 months ago • 6 min read
Letters to A Grieving Mama Dear Reader, How are you? I mean really—how are you after Sunday? International Bereaved Mother’s Day has come and gone. And I’m checking in because I know that day can land in so many different ways. Maybe you spent it intentionally. Lighting candles, saying their name, feeling held by the knowledge that this day was created specifically for you—for mothers who carry their children in their hearts rather than in their arms. Maybe you didn’t know the day existed...
6 months ago • 4 min read